48-Hour Foreplay
So here’s our suggestion for this weekend. Why not spend from Friday to Sunday together and doing all the foreplay you possibly can… but not actually having an orgasm until the very, very last minute?
Question – why would you want to do that? Answer 1: because foreplay is wonderful for its own sake. Answer 2: because the climax at the end of those 48 hours could be the best you’ve ever had. For both her and him, lots of arousal but no release means that passion builds up (and up) and the end result, if properly handled, can mean a much stronger and longer orgasm. Here’s how…
1: Set up the weekend with some lovely scene-setting to suit both of you. Maybe buy in some delicious food and drink, maybe have the right kind of music and DVDs on hand. Of course, don’t forget the bath bubbles, the massage oil, the toys and the sex manuals for lots of ideas…
2: If you possibly can, spend the whole weekend naked, so you have absolute access to each other. Maybe take it in turns to each do a strip tease; but then, to keep the tension going, for at least an hour have a strict ‘hands-off’ policy of no touching, just looking.
3: When you do get together, tease. Rub up against each other then back off. Allow only tongues, no hands. Lie one of you on their front while the other rubs up and down their back with every part of their body. But for the moment, no genital action at all.
4: Then take it in turns to be blindfolded and move on to… massage, first one then the other… giving each other a tongue bath… feeding each other unexpected foods (strawberries, yoghurt, smoked salmon, olives… stroking with a feather/silk handkerchief/velvet scarf and trail it lightly.
5: Ok, start in on each other in earnest – touching those particular erogenous zones that most turn you on. But again, go very gently, very slowly, and don’t rush things towards climax.
6: And – this is the important bit – No Orgasms. If either of you comes near, then simply stop. Hold back, take a deep breath – of if you’re really, really near the edge, back off and go do something else. Read a book, take a cold shower… and don’t don’t, Don’t go off and do it yourself in the loo. That’s not only cheating, it also ruins the whole object of the exercise.
7: Yes, you’ll need to sleep a bit. If you think you’ll be tempted to jump each other during the night, then be strong – one of you should go on the sofa! But as soon as you wake, then start in again… the idea is to keep the arousal high as you possibly can for two whole days without tipping over the edge.
8: As the forty-eight hours pass, it will get more and more difficult to hold back. But also be careful you don’t get so weary of not being able to come that some part of one or both of you just switches off. If so, then do something different – like eating or watching a romantic movie, going for a country walk) to let your bodies and minds get interested again. Only no-no is that you shouldn’t be mixing with/phoning/emailing other people – you need to keep the focus on the two of you and what you’re doing to each other.
9: As you near the end of your 48 hours, start planning the Big Climax. Decide which of you is going to go first… when you get really good at this, then you can aim for simultaneous, but for first time sessions, it’s best to take it in turns so that one of you can relax completely and just be in the moment. Then go, go, go… with whatever it takes, your best possible moves to tip each other over the edge – whether that’s hand work, tongue work, anal work or the intercourse position that you know works every single time.
10: Finally – helpful hint – leave at least three or four hours to recover. Because 48-hour foreplay will leave you not only physically exhausted, but sexually drained. Cuddling, snuggling, and simply sleeping – you’ll need it all before you’re ready to go back to real life.