Fetishes: What's Yours?
If there’s something - maybe a part of the body, maybe an article of clothing - that does it for you strongly, every time and all the time, chances are it’s a fetish. Something – over and above your beloved’s presence - that regularly turns you on, that triggers your arousal no matter what.
If he loves her to wear stockings… if she adores him in leather… if he loves to have his toes sucked… if she gets off on chocolate body paint… these are all common fetishes and none the worse for that. Get a bit weirder and you’re mud-wrestling, fire fetish shows, rubber suits, wearing nappies or drinking alcohol from the triangle formed by her closed legs (the Japanese are of Wakamasake)….
Harmful or harmless? If you can’t get aroused *unless* you use a fetish, then you need to take care – it limits your own sexual response and ruins love (what partner wants to be less important to you than your love of corsets or your need for water play. If this rings bells for you, then it’s wise to get counselling help. Fast.
But if your preference is simply that – a preference not a need – then it can be a lovely addition to lovemaking. Indulge yourself and get your partner involved as much as possible. Play, explore, experiment – here’s a short list of possibilities. And if you can’t find your favourite here, trawl the web – there’ll certainly be an accompanying website to give you more ideas.
Clothing: high heels… stockings… g strings… corsets… leather jackets… thigh high boots… hot pants… gloves… fur coats (and no knickers)
Parts of the body… long hair… earlobes… the nape of the neck… knees… feet… toes (think Fergie’s millionaire)… armpits… the navel…
Messy things… shaving foam… play dough… melted chocolate… mud… body fluids (but yes be careful, unless you’ve both been tested for sexually transmitted infections, don’t go there…)
Food… phallic foods such as cucumbers or chocolate bars… food eaten off your body such as strawberries in her navel or cream smeared round his penis… (be careful though – food in body orifices can cause infection)