How To Seduce Your Partner
No, seduction isn’t just for when you first meet, when he’s trying to get her into bed (or, of course, when she’s trying to do the same to him).
However long you’ve been together, it’s vital to keep seducing each other - so that sex isn’t something automatic, but a real sign that you not only love, but also still lust…
1: Seduction means paying attention to the one you want to seduce – and NOT taking them for granted. So regular texts, calls, emails during the day – saying how much your beloved turns you on.
2: Keep those signs of love not just caring but also overtly sexy. It’s so easy to default to chocolates and cuddly-bear cards. Instead, try underwear (for him as well as her), erotic books, videos and of course sex toys.
3: Get your partner’s imagination working overtime. Tell them, in advance, what you’d like to do to them. Remind them, after the act, of what you did to them and how much they adored it. Seduction happens in the mind just as much as between the legs…
4: Set the scene. It may be clichéd, but soft lights, soft music and just a little wine do help the body respond to sex – and make your partner more able to forget the day job and the children and relax into lovemaking.
5: Seductive touch is subtle, unexpected and teasing. So a long, slow gentle kiss rather than a full-blown tongue-down-the-throat job. Or a passing caress rather than a full-blown ‘jump-you-in-the-shower’. Keep your partner wanting more.
6: Make a ritual of undressing – just as you would if this were your first time together. Remember the poet who said that the most erotic word in the English language was ‘unbuttoning’, and unwrap your partner – with appreciative murmurs and caresses – as if you were seeing them for the first time.
7: Equally, once you do get going, don’t deliver all at once. Nothing’s more seductive than being made to wait. So don’t move to penetration immediately, but keep the foreplaying going for longer than usual… and when you are having intercourse, don’t necessarily push forward to orgasm right away but hold back for a while.
8: Make your afterplay seductive too…give lots of compliments for your partner’s performance, show just how much you enjoyed it and – after a particular special session – send those ‘morning after’ texts, emails and grateful bouquets, even if you’ve been together for decades!