Just a little slap and tickle...
You probably do it anyway – a bit of play struggling, one of you attacking the other defending, tickling each other or even administering a playful slap. (Note we say playful; we’re not in any way endorsing violence here, or anything that you don’t both agree to.)
But did you know that slapping and tickling can arouse in ways no other sexual activity can? So try it; one to the other, turn and turn about, or even – perhaps when you’re climaxing – both together.
Why does it work? Tickling gets things going because those ‘on-off’ touches sensitise the skin - particularly if the ‘victim’ doesn’t know what’s going to happen when. When done lightly, tickling also stimulates the fine hairs on the surface of the skin. creating even more intense sensations. It also boosts adrenalin and raises the heartbeat, which brings the body to the edge of arousal and makes it very easy to tip yourselves over the edge into passion.
Of course, never tickle someone who really can’t bear it – it won’t turn them on at all. But if if your partner is willing, then the best is to render them helpless before you start in so they simply can’t escape. So hold them down with one hand or tie them lightly to the bedposts. Do a quick ‘audit’ first to find their ticklish spots – typically under the arms, round the waist or the soles of the feet – then start in earnest, with fingers or even an ostrich feather.
Slapping, the next move on from tickling, works in more or less the same way, boosting adrenalin, stimulating the skin, raising arousal because of anticipation. But the firmer touch makes the effect even, sensitising the skin surface even more by bringing blood to the surface.
Don’t slap just anywhere. You need to choose sites where organs or bones are not near the skin – and never, never on the face or head.. Buttocks are by far the best place, because they’re well padded. Once again, you can restrain your partner – or simply lay them on their front and kneel on their back while you strike.
Some like it as foreplay, others as you reach orgasm or even while it’s happening. For extra effect, use a blindfold so they don’t know what is going to happen, when! As for how much, once or twice is quite enough – and even so arrange a safe word or phrase that the one being slapped can use to say “stop”.
But rightly used, you shouldn’t need to say stop.. .instead, used in the right way, at the right time, and with loving intent, ‘a bit of slap and tickle’ can make you both say ‘go on, pleeese, go on!’