Phone Sex, Text Sex & Webcam Sex
New technology has made (almost) anything possible – we can now have sex by phone, by text, by webcam.
How? Beginner’s guide for those who’ve not even heard of it: each of you masturbates yourself while at the same time you’re talking to, writing to, or looking at the other through the miracles of modern science.
But, of course, making love at a distance isn’t quite the same as close up and personal – and it needs different techniques and skills. So how can you make it really amazing?
First, here are some general tips.
- Take time. Don’t expect to just jump in and get hot you start talking to, or seeing, your beloved. Like face to face sex, you’ll need an arousal period.
- Do some scene setting, Turn on the music and if you can get naked – at the very least get privacy so you can relax.
- Remove distractions. If you don’t, then even if your beloved can’t actually see you, they’ll be able to tell that your focus is not on them.
- Get the technology right, and in fully working order. Trust me, there’s nothing more frustrating than your mobile battery dying when you or your partner is just about to climax. Oh, and buy a headset so you’re handsfree.
- Have everything to hand – lubricant, sex toys, whatever… You don’t want to have to leave the computer in the middle of the action in order to fetch the whip!
Helpful hints for phone sex
- It may take you a while to find the words and the tone – start maybe by just chatting, then move slowly into more erotic talk.
- If you can’t think what to say, then explain what you’re doing to yourself… or what you want to do to your partner… or what you want them to do to themselves.
- Spin fantasies, about being together anywhere in any situation… you both have to use your imaginations anyway, so make it work for you. Create a scenario, take it in turns to tell a story, ask intimate questions and answer them. Anything goes…
- If you miss the visuals, sit in front of a mirror and watch.
- You’re only using sound here, so you both need to be much clearer about what you’re doing. Find words that are comfortable for both of you, then describe the action step by step, not only movement, rythmn, speed but what you’re feeling – and how near you are to climax.
Helpful hints for text sex
- No visuals, and no sound here – plus often you’re doing it in public - so you really have to use your imaginations.
- You also have to keep things very, very brief – learn text .short cuts to give yourselves more options and develop your own codes for private bits and particular things you like doing.
- You also can’t waste text letters on a lot of erotic detail, so you may have to get straight down to it much more quickly than usual. Could be a good idea to get up to speed before you start texting.
- If you’ve got some privacy and can do something really naughty, you’ll have to pace your personal touching to keep pace with the texts that are coming in. So get used to taking yourselves along slowly and in sync.
Helpful hints for webcam sex
- Don’t try and look like movie stars – just be yourselves. (Though a slick of massage oil can make skin look gorgeous.)
- Don’t try and act like porn stars. It may work when you’re Photoshopped, but close ups of your genitals and licking the screen can come across very cheesy. Just lie back and act natural.
- Act to the camera, though – make a connection with your beloved rather than looking off into the distance.
- As with all the new technology sex, it may work better for each of you to take turns to climax, because it can be tricky to arouse yourself and still have some focus left to talk and move in a way that’s going to arouse your partner.
- As with face to face sex, take some time afterwards to snuggle up – it’s very discourteous to simply sign off after your orgasm.. Set aside time to cool down, talk a little – and remind each other not only that you want, but also that you care about each other.