This week’s Sex in the City was filled once again with your amazing stories and insightful experiences. This week Susan and I spoke to Tom who separated a year ago and despite running up 10s of thousands in gambling debts and even lashing out at his wife still desperately wanted to win her back. We spoke to Laura whose husband was having erection problems and they were struggling to have a baby. Kate told us at 43 she had given up on finding love and Bradley who called to say that couldn’t be more wrong having met a honeymooning couple, both in their 70s, on a flight yesterday!
Every Friday night, just after 11:30pm, Susan offers us her ‘Sex Tip of the Week’. Inspired by a friend’s installation of a wonderful new ‘walk-in shower’, I asked Susan to run through three positions to try… in the bathroom…
Bathroom sex is wonderful. The bubble bath smells delicious, the sponge feels arousing on your body. You can play together in the shower, stimulating sensitive parts as you soap each other down. You can soak together in the bath, letting the warm water wash over you as you kiss and caress. When it comes to hand and oral sex it’ll all follow naturally. But what about intercourse? That can be trickier – so here are three positions that will make the most of your bathroom adventures.
Position 1, in the shower – best if you like it short and sharp.
Showers can be slippy, so make sure you have a nonslip mat on the stall floor. Then do it standing, her with her back against one wall, arms round his neck. He will need to bend his knees slightly in order to insert, but once in and bracing himself with both hands against the shower stall, he can thrust away. When you both feel very stable, you can alter the angle and so vary the pleasure if she raises one leg and twines it round his buttocks, pulling him closer. Not one for prolonged intercourse as both of you can get very tired.
Position 2, in the bath - best if she wants to be in charge
If you have a standard long narrow tub the best position is for him to get in first, supporting himself on his elbows with his feet towards the tap end and his head resting on the bath edge; use a bath pillow if he’s not comfortable. She climbs in after – (make sure you don’t overfill the bath or the water will slop out) – and straddles, with her knees each side of his thighs, or if there’s very little room she sits above him with her knees to her chest. It’s her job then, with hands on the edge of the bath, to ride him up and down – while he relaxes and enjoys himself..
Position 3, in the Jacuzzi – best for romantic closeness
A Jacuzzi bath is usually wide and round, meaning that any full length action is impossible. Instead, get both of you sitting, backs to the edge of the Jacuzzi and legs round each other’s waists. Then let him lift her slightly and bring her closer so that she’s on his lap, with him penetrating; he will need to do the work here. A great position for kissing, snuggling and rubbing breasts.
Susan is back with me next Friday at 10pm.
After midnight we talked about ‘trust’. I feel like we’ve become such a suspicious race over the last decade or so, to the great detriment of the modern relationship. I’d love to pinpoint a reason for this but it seems that it is a collection of things, not least of which modern technology enables us to action our feelings of mistrust so much more easily than ever before.
Whereas 10 years ago, suspicious thoughts about your partner’s behaviour might have lead to hiring a Private Investigator to tail them, lurking in unmarked Ford Escorts, taking clandestine photographs, it’s fair to say that sort of behaviour was confined to ‘made for TV movies’. It wasn’t real life.
We can now take on the role of the PI ourselves. Social networking sites allow us to create alter-egos and test our partner’s fidelity with online ‘honey-traps’. There is even an iPhone App which allows you to check whether your partner has been snooping through your texts and emails! To see the iTrust in action - CLICK HERE
It comes down to a question of trust. I have always believed that true love cannot exist without it. Like a flame without oxygen, love will surely be extinguished as soon as it is removed. I’ve been there myself, checking my partner’s mobile phone for evidence of lies and infidelity. I’m sorry to say that I found it which helped me to connect the dots and realise once and for all that my suspicions were correct and the relationship was fatally flawed. I recall feeling more than a little sick at the time though and petrified about what I might find. Something in me already knew that even if there was no evidence to be found, our 4 years together was already doomed.
As always your calls and stories provided the most valuable insight into a topic so fundamentally central to all relationships. To hear them again and indeed any or all of tonight’s show – CLICK HERE
Sex in the City will be back next Friday night from 10pm.
Have a great weekend,
Jim
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Sex in the city, in the bathroom and on Facebook!
Posted by Jim Davis on January 23, 2010 at 01:08AM
The open lines with Susan, 3 positions to try in the bathroom and Jim talked to Stephanie who set up a false Facebook account to find out if her husband was cheating on her...