Sex Toys For Him
Last week we talked about how to use sex toys to turn her on… and this week it’s his turn! And yes, real men do use sex toys – which are not just emergency aids to ‘get it up and keep it up’ but ways of adding extra, deeper, or different pleasure in the bedroom department. So what toys work particularly well for him?
Penis extension
There are lots of options available, from simple condoms with lumps and
bumps through to huge and lifelike organs with additional vibrating
possibilities. Theoretically these are meant for her pleasure, but many
men buy them to supplement nature and so feel more powerful in bed.
Point to note here – best to check with her that she does actually need
him to have an ‘extension’ as often she’s quite happy with the status
quo! If she does need something extra, it’s likely to be more width
rather than more length - as mentioned last week, she can make sure
that what he chooses fits her needs by carving a cucumber to fit and
then measure it round...
Penis ring
If he wants to keep going for longer – or to have a another try after
his first orgasm – then a penis ring may do the trick. Some simply go
round the relevant organ, others clip round his balls too – really nice
are ones that also have a clitoral knob so he can stimulate her as he
thrusts. But beware. He shouldn’t leave a ring on for too long as it
can damage circulation – and he shouldn’t use one at all if he has any
kind of circulation or nerve condition. (If erection difficulty is more
than temporary, then the cause may be illness and he needs to see a
doctor.)
Vibrator
Classically her toy but great for him too. Try using it for an all-body
not forgetting his nipples – some men are surprisingly sensitive. Then
move to between his legs. Use it to massage his balls (gently!); the
‘glans’ at the tip of the penis; the frenulum - the sensitive skin
between glans and shaft; the perineum – the skin between penis and
anus. Using a vibrator while she gives him oral sex can be mind-blowing
– or she can deliver oral with a vibrator against her cheek. (Don’t
forget that more than one vibrator can deliver multiple sensations… on
balls, glans, anus….)
Merkin
An artificial vagina into which he can masturbate –simple version
sometimes come ‘disguised’ as a torch, while more sophisticated
versions ripple, squeeze and can be warmed up for an extra lifelike
effect. (Some are, allegedly, modelled on the relevant parts of female
celebs.) Most complex versions are sex dolls that allow him to thrust
into a variety of orifices. Are they usable in couple lovemaking? Less
so perhaps than any other toy simply because she may not want to be
upstaged – if so let her join in by stimulating other parts of his
body, or let him use the merkin to get erect then let her finish him
off.
Because the really important thing here – as with all toys – is that if you’re planning to use them as a couple, then the toy has to appeal to you both and involve you both. One way of guaranteeing that is to choose toys together, to suit both your tastes - so browse the web as a couple this weekend and perhaps even buy each other a fun present to mark the end of the summer holidays!