Sexy Games
Snakes and Ladders… Trivial Pursuits… Monopoly - great, fun games that all the family can play. But there are other games that you may not want the children to join in with over the festive season. We’re talking about sex games, which are now more and more popular; when I trawled the web to find out how many there were, I literally lost count!
Here’s my FAQs:
Q: What sorts of game are available?
A: The usual types are: board games, card games, dice games, quizzes.
Most are aimed at couples, but some are meant for groups – in which
case see the later note on choosing your players with care!
Q: What can sex games do for our relationship?
A: Good sex games are not just fun. They can get you out of a sexual
rut, give you fresh ideas. They can push the boundaries by introducing
fantasies or activities that you just wouldn’t dare try yourself. They
can give you an alibi for things that might otherwise make you feel
guilty – after all, if a game’s instructions tell you you have to be
naughty, then you can’t disobey, can you… . And all of these will
typically bring you closer, as many of them encourage you to open up,
swap fantasies, learn more about each other. (Quiz-type games can also
give you useful sexual information – for example about STIs - that you
may otherwise not have known.)
Q: So it’s all good then?
A: Most games are simply fun; many encourage you to be romantic or
seductive. But you do need to be careful – an activity that you might
find exciting might turn your partner off or vice versa, and some games
do lead you into heavy-duty fetish or SandM play. Trickiest of all are
group games, which specify more than two participants – think very
carefully about who you play with!
Q: So how do we make sure we don’t get into trouble?
A: Before trying sex games think through – and talk through with your
partner – what your boundaries are. Surf any good website for examples
and then together. Good questions to ask each other are:
- Would we each enjoy playing this game? Will we enjoy all the possible
activities? How risky do we want to get? Does the game involve other
people and if so are we happy with that? What’s the worst thing that
could happen if things got out of control? Might we resent or regret it
in the morning?
Q: Which games would you recommend?
A; We can’t endorse any particular games. But here some that might appeal - in risk order.
- A game of swapping funny or silly chat up lines
- Trivia cards testing your knowledge of all things sexual
- A board game in which you answer questions about, and act out, the seven deadly sins
- Board game that leads you into swapping fantasies
- A stripping game where if you throw certain dice combinations, you need to remove a piece of clothing
- Truth or dare – you have to answer questions, or carry out dares, set by others in the group
- Dice with sex verbs and body parts printed on; you throw the dice, then do the sex act on the body part suggested.
- Kama Sutra cards suggesting some very different sexual variations – pick a card and follow the instructions
Q: Finally, how much do these games cost?
Games normally cost between £10 and £20 – and you’re unlikely to find
them given away to charity shops! If you don’t want to splash out,
though, there’s a wonderfully low cost solution. Take six nuts or
sweets each – then give away one at a time to your partner (or, if
you’re in a group, to a co-player) in return for answering a risky
question or performing a sexual dare. No cost – and can get you where
you want to go very quickly indeed!