Sexy Wrestling
Yes, of course you want to be romantic and lovey-dovey together… but maybe not all the time. He in particular can really enjoy something a bit more energetic, to get his hormones flowing, to call up his primitive persona.
Let’s be clear. We’re not talking about anything one sided, anything that hurts, anything violent. Safe, sane and consensual are the key words here. But the sheer energy of a good pillow fight can stir you both up, and from there it’s a very simple step to passion.
It’ll work especially well if she makes the first move because then he’ll know that she’s really up for it. She could start things off with a sneak attack, perhaps tickling him; he retaliates by making a grab for her wrists and off you go. Pinning each other down, rolling over on top of each other, twining legs and arms together… lots of body contact and because fighting gets you going, her juices will very soon be flowing and he’ll be standing to attention.
Set ground rules for all fights. No nails, no weapons (bar the occasional cushion), no biting - though nibbling could be allowed, and decided beforehand a ‘safe word’ to mean ‘stop, I mean it’ (as opposed to the sort of ‘stop’ that means ‘please, please carry on.’).
If he’s much stronger than her, also set handicaps (one hand behind his back). If either of you cheats then set a penalty, e.g. the cheater makes dinner tomorrow!
And if you want to add an extra edge, set the timer and the one on top when it goes gets to claim an extra orgasm when lovemaking starts!