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Susan's Guide To Quickies

Yes, of course it’s great to spend hours and hours on long, slow, sensuous lovemaking. But hey – a quickie is just as wonderful if in a totally different way! (One American study suggests an average quickie takes seven minutes….)

Making love on the spur of the moment, hastily, spontaneously – it not only shows your beloved that you *want* them so much you just can’t wait. It also has all sorts of physical goodies – the speedy excitement gets adrenalin pumping and your hormones in full working order. And, in a world where we are so often busy, busy, busy, quickies keep your sex life active - even if time is short.

So how do you make the best of a quickie? Here’s my tip list:

Seize the moment!
Don’t delay – if both of you feel like it (or even if just one of you does), then go for it. Put aside your embarrassment and even any lack of arousal – if you start, then you’ll probably finish. The only barrier should be if you’re going to frighten the horses!

Major on lubrication
For her in particular, the secret of enjoyable quickies will be whether she’s lubricated or not. You probably won’t have any dedicated lubricant handy - so use saliva instead.

Go for instant arousal
Deep kissing to start with, then let her use her hands (and mouth if you’re sure you can’t be seen) to get him erect. If she’s finding it difficult to get up to speed, it may be more reliable to let her arouse herself.

Camouflage
If you’re in public, use positions that provide camouflage. Standing is best, because it’ll be much less obvious what you’re doing. Her up against a wall, with panties slipped aside, and one leg round his waist to pin him inside her.

Do what you know works
If you’ve got a failsafe way to get going use it for quickies in particular, so that both of you can relax and know it’ll happen. This is no time for experimenting with new Kama Sutra positions! It is a time for deep, fast and forceful on his part, and for her to help herself by hand.

Don’t get hung up on orgasms…
Given the time limitations, it may not happen for both of you. If it doesn’t - in particular if only he climaxes – then he should repay the favour when you’re safely back home.