The Perfect Kiss
What makes a perfect kiss? We reckon it’s down to 7 things.
1: Perfect moment.
Not when your or your partner are busy, distracted or in a rush. The
perfect kiss needs time and space. So yes when you’re heading for
nookie, but also… when you’re winding down… when you’ve had a success…
when you’re marking a special anniversary…when you’re just about to go
to sleep. Or, when you’re in a particularly romantic setting; one
friend of mine had her first kiss with her partner and they both opened
their eyes afterwards to find it had started snowing… very Richard
Curtis.
2: Perfect lead in
Make long deep eye contact. Then draw each other closer, perhaps arms
all the way round, or one hand behind each other’s head. Sense the rise
and fall of each other’s breath to get into total synchrony, and give
yourselves time to tune into every single movement the other makes.
Then slow all the way down to keep the excitement, the suspense as you
imagine what’s going to happen next.
3: Perfect pressure
Yes, there’s always room for a heavy smacker. But the perfect kiss
usually starts light. Nerves are so near the surface of your lips that
even the slightest touch will arouse – and those nerves also have a
direct link with your genitals, so that touch will reflect all the way
down your body. You can then keep going with light touches to tease –
or increase the pressure gradually as you get more and more aroused.
4: Perfect communication
Once you’ve first touched, actually, there are no rules. When it comes
to what movement, what rhythm, what speed, there’s no set pattern that
works with every partner and on every occasion. The secret is to
respond to the other’s signals – if they seem to want to speed up, why
not go with that? If they seem to want to pause for a heartbeat, why
not follow? Kissing is a two-way conversation, with one of you
offering a move and the other accepting, then making their own
suggestion.
5: Perfect tongues
No, no, no – don’t thrust straight in, but wait until you’re sure
you’re both ready! When you’re are ready, your mouths will naturally
open slightly (just as other parts of one’s anatomy may ease open when
they are ready to accept a penis!) Wait for that moment before you
penetrate... after that, slow entwining, curious exploring, tongue
fights; leading up to the gentle pumping that reflects what’s soon
going to happen below.
6: Perfect teeth
Don’t forget that kisses can involve teeth too - the Kama Sutra
suggests that gentle biting is one of the most erotic moves. Take it
gently unless you know your lover likes it otherwise – blood vessels
are very near the surface of lips, tongue and mouth. So nibble, don’t
nip.
7: Perfect ending
When you sense that the kiss is coming to an end - one of you starts
to shift away, or both of you run out of breath – don’t simply stop and
pull part. Disengage as gently and slowly as you engaged, draw back and
gaze into each other’s eyes. Show how much you enjoyed it – with a
smile, a loving word, a cuddle… or of course, by diving back in for
another kiss.